I was recently listening to a popular morning radio show, when they introduced a story about how parents favor their more beautiful children over their, for lack of a better term, uglier ones. At first I was horrified.
But then, after listening to parent after parent call in to say that yes, they indeed did (perhaps subconsciously) treat their prettier children differently, I began to realize that maybe they are on to something. I am not saying that my sister, the prettier of us children, was treated "better," but she was treated differently. My parents always told me I was smart. But she was gorgeous. If I got a B, I was chided, but if she got a B, it was the best she could do. And in fact, she was way smarter than me, as was shown by our SAT scores. But I wasn't pretty, so all I could be was smart.
But still. Better, to me, means that there is something to improve upon, that his crossed eyes aren't perfect in themselves. That his weird shaped head and chest aren't normal. That he really isn't all that more beautiful than the unfortunate kid at the pharmacy. So when I read this article about kids discriminating against other kids on purpose, I became terribly concerned.
Is the fact that we as parents are judging the beauty of children affecting the way our children see themselves? Are we teaching our children to judge others? Or is it just natural to be drawn to those that are beautiful?
What do you think? Do you sometimes treat others differently (even subconsciously) based on a perception of beauty?