HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN ON YOUR MOTHERHOOD JOURNEY?
Within 15 months of being married in 2003, oldest came along with youngest following 25 months later.
WHAT IS ONE OF YOUR HARDEST “MOM MOMENTS” THAT YOU WILL ONE DAY LOOK BACK ON AND LAUGH?
Oh there are too many to think about but one of the top five has got to be the day I totally broke down in despair and tears, phoned hubby at work and asked him to please come home as I thought I was about to totally lose it. Our youngest, who was 2 months old at the time, cried constantly and was never happy being held or being put down. He hardly napped and caused me much distress as his older brother was an “angel” baby, had never caused any major issues, and I wondered what I was doing wrong. On this particularly tough day, I had the baby in the front pack while trying to settle him and cook dinner. He was screaming, as usual and oldest, being sensitive (we still cut the tags out of his clothes today) started high pitched crying too. As he placed his rhythmically hands on and off his ears, he yelled, “Make the baby stop! Make the baby stop!!” I, of course, could not, sat down on the floor, and began to cry. Soon I too was shouting and chanting aloud, “I can’t! I can’t!” and I felt like I was at the end of my short rope, hovering at the edge of a cliff while hitting rock bottom.
I still cringe today when I think about how it would have all have looked if an outsider was looking in. Not close to laughing about it yet, but might one day…
WHAT HAS SURPRISED YOU THE MOST ABOUT MOTHERHOOD?
The amount of laundry. A child’s strong gag reflux. The never ending pee pool that mysteriously appears at the back base of the toilet seat a day after I just cleaned it. The immense emotions I can feel and how I can go from completely mad about something my kids have done one moment to completely loving their cherub little faces, hands, feet, toes, smiles, etc. the next. How my children awe and inspire me. How my children at times make me want to board a plane. Alone.
Trying to juggle part time work with being a stay at home mom. Not trying to maintain “balance” because I really don’t think it’s possible but rather keeping in perspective that my days are more like a teeter totter. Some days are great, productive, fun, adventurous, fulfilling and amazing while other days, nothing seems to go right. But, in the end, it will all be OK.
MY “MOM SECRET WEAPON” IS…
Employing the happy, jolly, “life is a bowl of cherries” voice to keep everyone feeling joyful and positive even when I really feel like yelling at the kids to get their jackets and shoes on for the millionth time in a row. (Which, I admit, I sometimes do, and it reallydoesn’t work. Sigh.)
The five c’s: To raise caring, compassionate, considerate, cooperative, and confident kids. To have FUN along the way and to remember to not take things so seriously all the time. To not sweat the small stuff, remember to be goofy along with the boys and to sometimes feed them pancakes for dinner just to enjoy the shock value and the giddiness that comes from the experience. To laugh, to sing and to dance with the boys at least 5 times a day and to remember to give hugs and kisses at least 10. To teach them that their life partner is to be loved, cherished and admired simply by role modelling the fact with my husband and my husband role modelling the fact with me. In the end, if my kids are respectful, kind and considerate human beings, I will feel that I have done my job.