TALK BACK: gender neutral parenting?
Quesadilla Pie

This is a recipe from Real Simple.
Ingredients
1 10-ounce can green or red enchilada sauce
1/4 cup heavy cream
4 8-inch flour tortillas
2 cups (8 ounces) grated Monterey Jack, plus 1/4 cup for the top
1 3 1/2- to 4-pound rotisserie chicken, shredded
1/2 small red onion, finely chopped
1 zucchini, quartered lengthwise and thinly sliced
1 cup salsa
1 avocado, diced
1 cup fresh cilantro leaves
1Heat oven to 400° F.2In a small bowl, combine the enchilada sauce and cream. Spoon 1/4 cup of the sauce mixture into the bottom of a shallow 2-quart casserole or 9-inch springform pan. Top with 1 tortilla and a third each of the cheese, chicken, onion, and zucchini. Repeat twice to form a total of 3 layers. Top with the remaining tortilla, sauce mixture, and cheese.3Cover loosely with foil and bake for 20 minutes. Uncover and bake 10 minutes more. Slice into wedges and serve with the salsa, avocado, and cilantro.
Fruit's Dirty Dozen
The Environmental Working Group is a great source for education on toxins and protecting our kids. They conducted a recent study to find out which fruits and veggies retained the most toxins when grown using pesticides. They then ranked the foods, to give ideas on which foods are most important to buy organic. Here is their top twelve:
Peach (highest pesticide load)
Apple
Sweet Bell Pepper
Celery
Nectarine
Strawberries
Cherries
Kale
Lettuce
Grapes - Imported
Carrot
Pear
Avocado and Onion came in as the safest. You can see the whole list, including scores, at EWG's website.
Friday Giveaway: Travel With Me
With Spring Fever approaching, we figure that many of our readers will be doing some traveling in the near future. We are excited to offer a giveaway today that is for those traveling with small children who cringe at using the airline pillows. You know, the ones that were drooled on by the guy traveling home from his weekend in Vegas. Not everything that happens in Vegas stays in Vegas...just check the drooly pillow for evidence. Eeewwwww, right?!
Travel With Me - Jetheads Disposable Airline PillowcasesTreat yourself to a wonderously soft and comfortable pillow for the airplane, car or anywhere you feel like resting your head! This compact, travel-sized pillow is available in either a plush 30% down/70% feather fill or a soft, Faux Down fill that offers the super fluffy comfort of down, but without the feathers! Pillows compress very nicely for packing, then spring back up when you're ready for a nap.
How to Get Extra Entries:
***When you enter an extra entry you must post a *separate comment* for each entry, sorry but we can’t keep track of extra entries unless you do this. ***
1 digg and 1 stumble by clicking on this article and submitting the buttons at the bottom for digg and stumble
2 join our Mama Memo mailing list by clicking here
3 join our facebook network by clicking here
4 put our blog in your blogroll or link list and leave a comment with the link to your blog
[this giveaway will be closed on Thursday, April 2nd at 11 PM, & the winner will be announced next Friday!]
Babywearing 101
Babywearing is one of the oldest traditions of parenting around the world. It just feels intuitive to keep a baby close, and it is such a good attachment tool. Here are just a few of the many benefits of carrying your baby:
Carried babies cry less. Babies that are held cry less than babies that spend a large amount of time in strollers, playpens, or car seat style carriers. Babywearing allows parents to be in tune with their babies needs for food, diaper changes, or love.
Enhanced development. Babies in arms spend a greater amount of time in the "quiet alert" behavioral state, the optimal state for learning. These babies are intimately involved in their parent's world, more engaged in what is going on around them, and able to learn from human interaction. Babies in arms are at the center of activity rather than the center of attention, which is a healthy atmosphere for development of sense of self.
Develops strong attachment to parents. Babies love to be held. This communicates to them that they are loved and cared for. Babies know they are safe when they can feel your heartbeat, hear your breath, and look up at your face. Keeping your child close provides warmth, comfort, and security. All are essential to healthy development and promote bonding between parent and child.
Lowers stress level of infant. Studies have shown that infants who could not feel or see their caregiver have more stress hormones circulating through their bloodstreams. Stress irritates the baby's digestive system causing the baby to spit up more often and increases the occurrence of diaper rash. Using a baby carrier calms your baby and allows you to address fussiness, swaddling, reflux,
as well as colic.
Freedom of movement. Just because you have a baby doesn’t mean your life is on hold, so make things a little easier on yourself with a baby carrier. Free your hands to allow for playtime with other children, go to the park, for trips to the grocery store, or to accomplish day-to-day activities and still be in close physical contact with your baby.
Types of Baby Carriers
Wraps: A wraparound carrier, or wrap, is the simplest baby carrier. It is a long piece of fabric that is used to tie the baby to you. It has been used across the globe in many cultures because of the versatility and simplicity. Wraps are one of the most comfortable baby carriers for you and your baby. There are hundreds of ways to wrap your baby, so there is a carry style for everyone. Weight is evenly distributed across your shoulder, back and waist. The sleepywrap is a great example of a wrap that can be used on the front or the back, from newborn to toddler phase.
Pouches: A pouch is a tube of fabric with a curved seam sewn in the middle pro
viding a "pouch" for baby to sit in. Pouches are non-adjustable and custom fit to the wearer. Pouches use a one shoulder style carry and are very easy to use. Pouches are excellent for quick trips and errands. They can be used for a newborn carry, upright carry, and a hip carry. Hotslings is the original designer pouch-style baby carrier, and still the best. Hotslings are the perfect marriage of fashion and function; they come in great colors and patterns and can even be purchased at Target. There are no fasteners or hardware to worry about and the streamlined design is geared toward the comfort of both the parent and the baby. Hotslings pouches have minimal padding so they’re extremely compact and easy to carry. They also allow you the flexibility of moving the baby around on your body quickly and easily from front to hip to back with no adjusting, unbuckling or retying. We love the stretch fabric option because it has a little give. Another great pouch option is the Peanut Shell, made of a variety of fabrics with stylish and thoughtful details that go with any style. The fabrics are adorable, some are reversible, and they also have matching nursing covers, which makes for the perfect public-nursing combo. Each pouch also has a toy loop and pocket.
Ring Slings: Ring Slings are adjustable pouches where the sling material loops around the body and gets passed through two rings at the shoulder. The fabric that gets pulled through the rings is called the tail. The tail and the adjustability are what makes the ring sling appealing to many moms. Rockin’ Baby Slings are reversible ring slings that can be adjusted while you wear them by pulling on the tail or sides of the tail. Rockin' Baby Slings actually live up to their name: they are fun and funky, and work really well. The tail is extra long to shade baby from the sun or use as a cover while nursing. This sling is also a good choice if you plan to share it with loved ones of a different size (that's right, hubby) because it has such a wide range of adjustment. Rockin’ Baby Slings can be worn in five different carrying positions , to match baby’s mood and development, from birth to around 3 years of age or 40 lbs. For a luxury ring sling, check out Bronwen Handcrafted ring slings. These handmade slings are crafted of gorgeous and luxurious fabric. The tail is made of fine fabric and it is nice to have for nursing because it can cover up a bare midriff. It can also be used as a pillow for the baby, wrapped around the rings or tucked underneath the sling if you don't want to show it off. In this sling babies can be carried in the cradle hold, upright hold, kangaroo hold, side carry, and hip carry. Bronwen wins for beautiful fabrics, and check out their baby shoes, too.

Flexible Knit Slings - These super-soft slings have a stretch to make for extra comfort for baby. Serene Sling makes a sling that’s as comfortable as your favorite knit top. Unlike other slings that bind and confine, the serene sling is flexible so it hugs your baby without being too tight. Wear it everyday around the house, out shopping or on a long trip, it's always handy and folds down small to tuck away in the diaper bag. The deep pocket style keeps baby comfy and cozy so you can stay active and your baby can stay close.Adjustible Pouch Slings - the adjustible pouch is similar to the ring sling, but doesn't involve the two rings and the tail that hangs down. There is a simple clip that allows you to tighter or loosen the baby's hold. Therefore, it's a bit more portable, while still offereing the same flexibility. Balboa Baby's adjustable sling is so soft and comfortable. Designed to grow, the Balboa Sling offers comfort and hands-free motion and promotes bonding. The unique contoured, padded strap evenly distributes your baby’s weight while maintaining a sleek appearance. Conveniently added, the pocket carries your belongings as you carry your most precious one.
Soft Pack Baby Carriers - This carrier in its most basic form has a rectangular or square shaped body and four straps - one coming from each corner of the body piece. They have been used for centuries in many Asian cultures. Today there are modern variations such as padded straps, buckles, and clips. ERGObaby’s baby carrier design supports a natural sitting position for babies, eliminating compression of the spine and hips that can be caused by unsupported suspension. The baby carrier also balances the baby's weight to parents' hips and shoulders, and alleviates physical stress for the parent. We love that they are made of organic cotton, and have a unisex look that dad won't mind wearing.
So how do you decide which carrier is right for you? Different carriers are appropriate for different needs. How long you wear your baby, how old your baby is, what you plan on using your carier for, and your budget are things to consider when choosing a baby carrier.
toy bowling
Grab your stash of small toy figures and balls of different sizes. Set up the figures in the 4, 3, 2, 1 bowling pin structure. And, then, have a ball!
TALK BACK: internet safety
Protecting our kids from "adult content" online is a reality most of us will face. If you have internet access in the home, it's an issue that must be addressed. Pornagraphy and predators are rampant on the web, and parents have to be vigilant to keep kids from being exposed to things that are not appropriate for children.
The Crockpot Jackpot
The crockpot can be mom's best friend, especially for those of us who like to laze about in the afternoon instead of cooking. Recently, we stumbled upon the blog of a mom who commited to making a new crockpot recipe every day for a year! It's called A Year of CrockPotting, and it is chock full of great recipes. We are stealing one for today, but go check out her blog for more ideas!
Turkey Cutlets in Mango Salsa
--1 lb of turkey breast cutlets.
--1 can tomatoes and chiles
--2 mangoes
--2 peaches
--1 T dried minced onion
-- 1 bunch cilantro
--1/4 cup water
The Directions.
1. peel and chop up the fruit. Mother Nature most certainly had a sense of humor when she developed mangoes. Those things are ridiculously hard to cut.
2. in a small bowl, combine the can of tomatoes and chiles with the chopped fruit, cilantro, water, and dried onion flakes.
3. lay the pieces of meat into the bottom of the crock--slightly stagger the pieces so they don't stick together.
4. cover with your newly-made salsa
cook on low for 5-8 hours.
Friday Giveaway: Curious George Discovery Beach Game

Our next giveaway is a the new Curious George Discovery Beach™ Game !
Search the seashore for hidden treasures! I Can Do That Games! is a company that has already wowed us with their Dr. Suess inspired games that our kids LOVE. But now, everyone's favorite monkey is the star of the show in these fun games.
Hit the beach with your favorite monkey for a seashore scavenger hunt adventure! Flip a card to reveal your challenge. Then search for sea creatures and colorful treasures hidden below five secret beach locations. Can you find a match? But watch out for waves! If the game spinner lands on a wave, shake the box and the treasures will slide and hide in new locations. Find the most treasures to win! It takes all the fun of "I Spy" that we all play with our kids non-stop and adds the aspect of getting to shake up the sand to see what will be revealed, and with NO MESS to clean up.
Ages 3-8; MSRP $12.99; Available January 2009 exclusively at Target and Target.com
To be entered in this giveaway, leave a comment answering the following question:
If you were having a game night with friends, what games would you choose?
How to Get Extra Entries:
***When you enter an extra entry you must post a *separate comment* for each entry, sorry but we can’t keep track of extra entries unless you do this. ***
1 digg and 1 stumble by clicking on this article and submitting the buttons at the bottom for digg and stumble
2 join our Mama Memo mailing list by clicking here
3 join our facebook network by clicking here
4 put our blog in your blogroll or link list and leave a comment with the link to your blog
[this giveaway will be closed on Thursday, March 26th at 11 PM, & the winner will be announced next Friday!]
Winner of the Vintage Momma jewelry set:
{{{{{ joannaonthelake }}}}
Please email us in the next 2 weeks to claim your prize!
Crack Kills. Shade Can Help.
As in, helping you look cute without showing your crack. In their own words, "we were just thinking that women should not have to choose between being modest and being stylish. They could – and should – have both, and we were going to help them do so." The company started with their super-soft layering tees, camis and tanks. Their tops are extra-long, to make sure your tummy and bum are covered no matter what jeans you choose. Since then, they've greatly expanded the line to include sweaters, dresses, bottoms, and even swimwear. They also have a fabulous maternity line, which has been my favorite maternity tee so far. It is extra-long and comes in great solid colors. Best of all, it still looks great after every washing. Which is good - because I wear it nearly every day. If you are a nursing mom, Shade has some great options for you, too. Their classic cami paired with one of their cardigans is a great way to give baby access while providing coverage for mommy.
one of THOSE days
When it's just one of THOSE days, the kind where I can't focus and I don't get anything done and I don't care and then I'm sad? The kind where my funk is making my boys all funky?
I round up the grumpy people (myself included)...
And I tell them to get ready...
I crank up the music...
AND WE DANCE IT OUT!
TALK BACK: does facebook make you a bad mom?
We ran across an interesting discussion at Boston Moms and thought we'd pose the same one here:
I was in a pleasant Facebook haze this weekend, when the 2-year-old decided she'd had enough.
She clambered onto an office chair and grabbed my right h
and right off the mouse.
"Lila!" she yelled, thumping her own chest. Meaning, of course in toddler-speak: "Hey you, worst-mother-in-the world, pay attention to me instead of that stupid screen." Oh dear. I had been too busy posting photos of the kids and little Dorothy Parker-esque witticisms about their antics to actually mother them.
My child had become a Facebook orphan.
It used to be that moms sat home alone with small children, some so painfully isolated from friends and current events they became seriously depressed. But now we have a 24/7 newsfeed about 500 of our nearest and dearest friends. We've heard about the Internet ruining romances ("My husband friended all of his his ex-girlfriends...") and even careers ("She twittered WHAT about the boss?")
But what about social media's impact on parenting small children?
Blogging, facebooking and twittering take away time we might otherwise spend with our kids. But, on the other hand, these technologies are a lifeline and sanity-saver for so many moms. Are the benefits and connections these new technologies bring to our lives worth the tradeoffs? Is it any different from having a more traditional hobby that takes you away from the children?
Multigrain Pasta with Sweet Potatoes & Leeks
This amazing recipe is from Real Simple!
12 ounces multigrain penne
4 teaspoons olive oil
3 leeks (white and light green parts), cut into half-moons
3 cloves garlic, thinly sliced
1/4 cup fresh sage, chopped
2 small sweet potatoes (about 1 pound), peeled and cut into 1/2-inch pieces
Kosher salt and pepper
3/4 cup grated Parmesan
1/4 teaspoon ground nutmeg
Cook the pasta according to the package directions. Drain, reserving 1/2 cup of the cooking water.
Heat the oil in a large skillet over medium heat while the pasta cooks. Add the leeks and cook, stirring, until they begin to soften, 4 minutes. Stir in the garlic and sage and cook 2 minutes. Add the sweet potatoes, 1/2 teaspoon salt, and 1/2 teaspoon pepper and cook, covered, stirring twice, until just tender, 6 to 8 minutes. Stir in 1/2 cup of the Parmesan and the reserved cooking water and simmer, stirring, until the potatoes are fully tender, 2 to 4 minutes.Add the cooked pasta and nutmeg and toss.
Divide among individual bowls and sprinkle with the remaining Parmesan and 1/2 teaspoon pepper.
Upgrade: For a heart-healthy boost and a bit of crunch, sprinkle in 1/2 cup chopped roasted almonds before serving. Try using butternut squash as a flavorful alternative to sweet potatoes.
Yield: Makes 4 servings
Friday Giveaway: Vintage Momma Ring & Earring Set
What is your favorite piece of Vintage Momma jewelry, and why?
Contest ends Thursday, March 19th at 11pm. Be sure to check back next Friday to see if you've won.
How to Get Extra Entries:
***When you enter an extra entry you must post a *separate comment* for each entry, sorry but we can’t keep track of extra entries unless you do this. ***
1 digg and 1 stumble by clicking on this article and submitting the buttons at the bottom for digg and stumble
2 join our Mama Memo mailing list by clicking here
3 join our facebook network by clicking here
4 put our blog in your blogroll or link list and leave a comment with the link to your blog
Shoot us an email in the next two weeks to claim your prize!
Poopasaurus Rex.
Since this little child ceases to amaze me with her antics (check out this morning's picture) I dug up the original email I sent to my friends regarding the inaugural Poopgate 2007. We were trying to coordinate a girls craft weekend and I was beyond desperate for a break. Enjoy.
America's Most Stressful Home Videos
The other night Mark and I had a "date night" with Jafta. It was really cute. India spent the night with Grandma and Grandpa to get a little quality time in, and she went to a Gymboree class with cousin Tanner in the morning. So we knew we needed to frame it as a special night for Jafta. He was SO excited. In fact, he must have asked me 20 times what time our date night started, just to confirm it was really happening. He LOVES getting our undivided attention, and feeling like he is being let in on mommy and daddy's secret dating world.
So we went to Wahoo's, then Target (where he got to walk instead of ride in the cart) and then to frozen yogurt. He came home and we had another new treat: I had taped an episode of "America's Funniest Home Videos". Now this is not the typical tv fare that is on my DVR, but I had heard from a friend that her preschool-aged kids loved watching this show as a family. I had this fond memory of watching Dick Clark's TV's Bloopers and Practical Jokes with my own family. My sisters and I would look forward to it all week, and just laugh and laugh together. I envisioned this being the case with my four-year-old.
I should add that we are a fairly stingy family in terms of tv watching. I think Jafta has seen a total of four differen children's series before, most of them on PBS or Noggin. Don't get me wrong, he watches a little every day. But the selection is limited. So to watch a "grown up" show was quite a stretch.
At the end of the evening, we told him we had a surprise and cuddled up on the couch together. I told him we had a very funny new show we could watch together. Only, instead of laughing hysterically, Jafta found the entire show to be a big exercise in stress management. He was deeply concerned for every groin kicked and every head bonked. He was devastated by the dad who fell off a sled. He asked "Are they okay? What happened to them?" about every person who tripped and fell. He seemed completely freaked out by the dogs who tugged on their owners pants, or knocked over a table full of food. He found the show to be completely humorless and utterly disturbing in every way.
I love my son so much, and this little quirk was somehow so stinking cute. He is such an empathetic little guy. He was completely unwilling to sit back and laugh at other people's expense (this is not something he learned from me). What a sensitive little soul. So a few minutes in, we turned it off, and let him process a bit about all those poor people who kept falling down and hurting themselves, and what a strange and cruel world we live in. And then we decided we'd stick to watching musicals for our family tv night.
Talk Back: Footloose OR fancy free?

When my Mom was in high school, she broke the rules and went to a school dance. Later that evening she was pulled off the dance floor in front of all her friends by a fuming, God-fearing man. My Grandfather. He had told his daughter there would be no dancing and he apparently meant what he said. So he dragged my humiliated Mother home and poured on the guilt, I'm sure.
I've heard that story a thousand times in my life. My Mom would tell it to me pretty much any time she allowed me to do something she was not allowed to do in her own childhood. Or on the rare occasion that she had to say no, I would hear the inevitable, "Well, I wasn't even allowed to dance when I was growing up so I think you should realize that there are a lot of things I DO let you do."
Then I would stomp off to pout, waiting and hoping that she would change her mind.
My parent's decisions made no sense to me at the time, but now as a mom, I'm finally catching on. My boys are only ages three and one, but I think a lot about the future, wanting the very best for their lives. I know a very important part of parenting is having boundaries, but I'm not sure yet what ours will look like in the teen years. I'm naturally pretty laid back about rules, but I also believe boundaries are very important for kids, so I don't want them to have too much freedom either.
It seems there are many different ways to apply boundaries, rules and expectations in the teen years. I'm not convinced there's a best approach? Is there a best? If you have pre-teen and/or teen children, how did you decide what the "rules" would be? Is what you've chosen to do working for your family? Did you follow any certain advice from books or other sources?
If you don't have teens yet, is this something you think about?
I realize I have many years before my boys will be teenagers, but let's face it, the teen years are daunting. I figure I should start thinking, preparing and praying now!
Nut Milk
We've got another great recipe from Kristen Suzanne, noted raw chef and author of some amazing cookbooks. For more great recipes, check out Kristen's blog or website.
By Kristen Suzanne of KristensRaw.com
Yield 4 cups
2 1/2 cups water, more if desired
1 1/2 cups hemp seeds
1 - 2 tablespoons raw agave nectar or 2 - 3 dates, pitted (optional)
Blend all of the ingredients until creamy and smooth.

Nut / Seed milk will stay fresh in your refrigerator for up to five days. It'll separate when it's been sitting in your refrigerator so simply shake it up before serving. It also freezes well (you might want to make a couple of batches at once and freeze them in glass mason jars).
Friday Giveaway: In Wood We Trust
Lots of mamas are looking for more traditional toys that encourage imagination and exploration, providing the same playing experience they had as children. Design for Play toys encourage classic imaginative play. Their safe, eco-friendly toys are imagination powered, not battery powered. Using only top-quality wood, Design for Play toys are beautifully-designed and handcrafted to be handed down from generation to generation. These toys are the antidote to plastic kid clutter.

To be entered in this giveaway, leave a comment answering the following question:
How to Get Extra Entries:
***When you enter an extra entry you must post a *separate comment* for each entry, sorry but we can’t keep track of extra entries unless you do this. ***
1 digg and 1 stumble by clicking on this article and submitting the buttons at the bottom for digg and stumble
2 join our Mama Memo mailing list by clicking here
3 join our facebook network by clicking here
4 put our blog in your blogroll or link list and leave a comment with the link to your blog
[this giveaway will be closed on Thursday, March 12th at 11 PM, & the winner will be announced next Friday!]
Winner of the Sweet Baby Creations & Diapers.com loot:













































