TALK BACK: What do your kids call your friends?

It's always an awkward protocol - figuring out how your children should refer to other adults. Some people prefer the intimacy of first names, while others feel it is more respectful to use last names.

What do your kids call your friends? What about the parents of their own friends? How did you come to that decision?

10 comments:

  1. Generally speaking, if it is an acquaintance that I call by their first name (like Bob or Sue), I introduce them to the kids as Mr. Bob and Miss Sue. And insist that they call them that. If the person is a close friend, the kids sometimes graduate to first name only. Part of this is that I am terrible with names, and have all I can do to remember a first name, never mind a first AND last. But also, I just think that our generation does expect (or like?) that level of formality: Mrs. Waters. Ick. I hate that.

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  2. My daughter doesn't talk yet- but my friend's kids call me Christy. One woman has her son call me Ms. Christy. I prefer just Christy - but whatever works!

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  3. We do Mr & Ms and then their first name. I feel like that adds respect but is also keeps it casual. My kids are all 5 and under so this may change over time.

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  4. My girlfriends are referred to as "Aunties". My son's biological aunts go by Aunt So-and-So and my friends are Auntie So-and-So. We haven't really addressed the guys yet...

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  5. We do the Mr and Miss first name thing too. I don't know why, it just sort of happened naturally. Like Corey though, some of our closest friends have had the Miss dropped. They're in the inner circle :) Ha!

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  6. Totally depends - If it's a parent of their friend I make sure they call them Miss/Mister first name. If it's one of my friends and they're over often it's Auntie/Uncle First name. If it's a friend we don't see often it's Miss/Mister or I just let them introduce themselves as they're comfortable with.

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  7. If it's left up to us, we introduce adults to our children using the Miss/Mister moniker. "Miss Carolyn and Mister Rick."

    However, if I can, I ask the adults what they prefer. Some are teaching their kids the Mr&Mrs way of speech, so they would prefer to keep it that.

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  8. After reading the other comments, I guess I am in the minority. My kids call my closest friends Aunt & Uncle, as well as their "real" aunts and uncles. We did this because quite frankly, our closest friends are family to us.

    All other adults (yes neighbors too) are Mr. or Mrs. last name!!!! Even when the adult tells me, "oh that's okay, he can call me by my first name," I insist on the formal respect of Mrs. last name. Even to this day, I can't call my best friend's mom anything but Mrs. Hobart, and she just laughs at me. Since my oldest is in grade school, it's been easy to keep up the formal name calling because all the teachers require the children to address the mommy helpers as Mrs. so and so.

    The flip side of this is I get sorta annoyed when a friend or neighbor allows their child to call me by my first name. It just feels weird to me and too familiar coming from a 7 year old. It also puts me in the position to correct them and somehow feel that I need to apologize or explain my reasoning and how I think that children should be required to speak to adults with respect, starting with their name.

    I know I'm probably alone in my thinking, but that's how we do it.

    Mrs. Lawrence :)
    (you guys can call me Julie!)

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  9. I'm in the majority mix. Close family friends are on first name or auntie & uncle basis. People we don't know well are Mr. or Mrs First Name, for the same reason as Corey, sometimes I don't know or can't remember the last name (also they are difficult to pronounce sometimes). I have a friend who uses the Mr. & Mrs. Last Name system for respect and also to refrain from allowing her children to become to familiar too quickly with adults. Her thought is that keeping a healthy distance between her kids and her aquaintances is a protective measure. At first I thought this was a bit overly cautious, but maybe not. What do you think?

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  10. I have them call them Mr. or Mrs. "First Name". I call my friends by their first name and I don't want them to get confused, but I do want them to show respect.

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