WWYD - a mom's dilemma


Sometimes motherhood throws me into situations where there is no clear-cut answer, and where I am left choosing between the lesser of two evils. I ran into one of those situations today, and I'm curious to know what other moms would have done. So, WWYD?

Here's the scenario: You need to run into a major grocery store chain for milk, and you have three kids in tow (one of them a newborn in an infant seat). You spot the fancy carts that will hold three children at the front entrance of the store. You park as close as you can to those carts, which are across the street from where you are parked. You must now strategize the safest way to get all three kids into said cart. Do you:

1. Leave the kids in the car for a moment while you walk over and get a cart to bring back to the car so that the kids can cross the street strapped and contained in a seat.

2. Do your best to wrangle two small kids across a parking lot and street while holding an infant carseat carrier that leaves you with one free hand, because leaving children in the car, no matter how brief, is not okay.
So. moms, what would you do? Risk crossing the street with all the kids and one free hand, or risk leaving them in the car (in your line of site) while you cross the street? I'm curious to hear what you would do. In a few days, I'll post about what I chose to do, and what drama ensued from that decision!

21 comments:

  1. I would probably leave the kids in the car. I would leave the car running, and take the keyless entry car fob off and lock them in there after explaining what I was going to do. I would RUN to get the cart and run back. I'm sure it would take less then 30 seconds and no one would be damaged from the situation. I'm curious as to what other people say!!

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  2. I have to admit, I would leave the kiddos in the car. I would much rather them sit in a car without me for less than 30 seconds than risk them getting hit by a crazy driver in the grocery store parking lot!! Keeping in mind that I can see the car and the car would be lock until I returned.

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  3. I leave them in the car for 30 seconds while I get the cart and they're within sight. The whole don't leave them in the car doesn't really apply here. Except maybe if you live in like Death Valley California where the 30 seconds may fry them inside.

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  4. I would leave them in the car but would make sure and lock the doors. 30 seconds waiting in the car is better than trying to take them all across the street!

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  5. I think there is nothing wrong with leaving them in the locked car in your line of sight. No different then loading them up at a friends house and then standing outside talking while trying to get out of there. Haven't we all done that?

    Safer to leave them where they are secure and bring cart to them.
    I assume we're not talking about a 100 degree day? And of course then with windows cracked and quick on your part that wouldn't matter anyway.

    Kids can break away quickly and since it's not just one child it would be hard to wrangle a child that has broken away while containing the others.

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  6. I leave my 2 in while I make a MAD dash for the cart! :). I also always park as close to a cart as I can even if it means walking a mile to the store. Good exercise right??

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  7. I'm with everyone else. I too would leave my two kids in the car, in my line of sight of course. And RUN to the cart so that you have all kids contained safely in the cart while crossing the street. Especially if you have three.

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  8. I'm not going to break the cycle. I too would (have) left them in the car long enough to grab the cart. I too park as close as possible to the carts/corral as I can!

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  9. Leave them in the car.

    I think the whole "leaving children in the car, no matter how brief, is never OK" is a bunch of hooey, frankly.

    I'm not advocating that we leave them in there while we shop at Target. But while I run across the parking lot to get my daughter after school? When I'm going to get a cart? When I'm mailing a letter across the street? You bet they stay in there.

    It's the lesser of two evils, but that's life. Nothing is safe, and those who preach to us that safety is king are usually selling safety products and using fear to make money.

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  10. I'm with the rest of the crowd.

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  11. There are too many kidnappings & horrible things that can happen.
    Plus, the law is very strict about these things.

    I would have gather them up & made our way to the carts togethter & just pray that there was one left.

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  12. Right after I had my son and was realizing that everyday quick errands (dropping off drycleaning, etc.)were suddenly more complicated I read about a woman who had left her child in the car. It was for a very short time, in line of sight and it just made sense, but a cop saw it and child services jumped in.

    I think leaving your children in the car for mere seconds is perfectly safe but the thought of having my child taken away from me has made me do the inconvenient or just skip the errand all together. I'm very curious what happened.

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  13. i would (and did) leave them in the car. i would feel safer with them strapped in and safely contained than wrangling them in a busy parking lot. although, one time i was at target and the kids were all strapped in and was returning the cart and as i was crossing the street a car zoomed through the parking lot and almost hit me. and a moment flashed before me that thought, "what if i had gotten hit? what if nobody found the kids? what if i was unconscious and i couldn't tell anybody which car was mine full of my children?" that totally freaked me out. so if i do have to leave them in the car, i run like hell. :)

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  14. I would lock them in. In fact, I did this yesterday while I ran across the parking lot to return a video in the quick drop box. Fun to see other's opinions.

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  15. I was going to say, "Yeah, I'd probably leave them in the car", but then I read Jenna's post, and that made me think. My mom friend who has 2-year-old triplets has wrist leashes, so those and a sling would probably be my choice to wrangle them until we got to the cart. But take this with a grain of salt, from someone with only one child. ;)

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  16. Oh, and I wanted to add a third option -- call your husband and make him pick up the milk on the way home! ;)

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  17. What if you had your kids n hand and then got hit by a car while getting the cart? I think that would be worse than leaving them in the car. I'm with the majority here. I have 3 little ones - one being an infant and have tried both scenarios. I try to avoid going to the store if it is just for one item. Make the hubby do that!

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  18. I would have skipped the grocery store trip, called the hubby to bring milk home or gone to the store by myself after hubby got home.

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  19. Leave them in the car, run for the cart, and feel a bit guilty during the whole process. :-)

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  20. Coming from a mom who knows first hand, this is a tough one. I have four under 8, and one on the way. I'm terrified about them being left behind in a hot car, or getting hit from running off in the parking lot. More often than not though, I do what everyone else seems to do, and keep them 'safe' in the car. Who knew this was such a big issue. I'm curious to see what happened!

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  21. As much as I'd like to say leave the kids in the car and make a mad dash (much less of a headache for mom) if you live in Phoenix, someone will probably call cops/CPS on you for that 30 second mad run. It is just way too hot here to leave kids (or pets) in the car here for at least half the year. Every year we have a handful of unfortunate, yet very avoidable, childhood deaths where the kids were only left for a few minutes. What if you got hit by a car or take a spill, (or heaven forbid, stop to talk to someone for only an extra minut.) By the time help gets to you, your kids would be in even worse shape. Odds of something happening as you make the mad dash across the road are not high, but why take the risk with your kids.

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